i haven’t been able to write so much lately. ive been so busy with life in general. & in truth id rather not remember a lot of the things that are happening now.
but on the other hand…theres so much that i do want to remember.
this year is half way done and its already been a year of major change. if everything thats keeping me busy is there as a distraction then thats fine with me.
it doesn’t hurt so much. but it still upsets me. but its okay. i’m so busy i don’t have time to care anymore about trivial things.
if these are the steps to getting over you then so be it. i’m okay.
Relationships take work and effort and sometimes need fighting for. How do you know when it’s time to stand up and fight for it, and when it’s just not worth it? Here are 10 examples of when it’s worth it and when it’s not:
· You’re best friends. If your relationship is built on a solid foundation of friendship and you consider your partner to be your best friend, then it’s worth trying to save the relationship and putting in the work it needs. It’s hard to find a partner who is also your best friend and it takes a long time to build that type of relationship, so put the effort in to make it work.
· You love them. Getting to the point where you truly love someone takes time and effort and a special bond that can’t be re-created with just anyone. If you are lucky enough to really love your partner, it’s worth fighting for to save it.
· You see future potential. If you can picture your partner as someone you can potentially spend your life with and see them as part of your future then it’s worth saving. If they are someone that you like but just can’t see being with in the long term, you may not want to put in the effort.
· They make you into a better person. If you have found someone that makes you want to be your very best version of yourself and inspires you to grow and be a better person, then it’s a relationship worth fighting for. So often our partners can drag us down, so if you’ve found someone that builds you up you should do what you can to try to keep the relationship alive.
If your head tells you one thing and your heart says another, which is the one you should listen to? When it comes to relationships, both play an important role. Here’s when you should listen to your head or your heart when it comes to love:
Follow Your Head
….looks like everyone needs to start thinking with their head more…
The eight most hated personality traits include the following:
1.Arrogance – This is the know it all who looks down on others. They’re haughty, superior and proud.
2.Rudeness – This includes being impolite, offensive, or embarrassing … and disregarding social norms and rules.
3.Being domineering and overbearing – This individual like to take control of others, and dictate situations and events. They disregard the input and the feelings of others. It’s all about them, and what they think and want to do.
4. Dishonesty – This is one of the most hated traits as it undermines trust – the glue that binds relationships. And once trust has been lost it is hard to regain
5. Being moody and temperamental – It is hard to relate to temperamental individuals. They’re changeable, erratic and unpredictable. It can destroy the peace, put everyone on edge, and leave you feeling tired, worn out and drained.
6. Unreliability – This also undermines and destroys the sense of trust that’s critical for forming good, and strong, relationships. You don’t know where you are – or if the plans will later change. Hence, it’s hard to feel at ease – or to delegate to others.
7. Being overly dependent / always needing support – It’s exhausting when you always have to be there for others – to protect them from life’s blows and rebuild their self-esteem. You can’t just be yourself or focus solely on your life. You have to bolster them, and affirm their strengths and worth.
8.Pessimism – We all feel negative and fed up at times. But the pessimist can never see the sun, or silver lining. They never stop complaining, are grumpy or mad, and very quickly sap any energy you had.
“i don’t care”
”who cares? do you think i care? why should i care?” sound familiar?
we should care because of love right? we should be imitating God’s love right?
you know its funny…because you’ve said that how many times now?
so what you’re saying is that…you don’t care….meaning you don’t love these people…
hmm…sounds pretty hypocritical if you ask me.
don’t get on your high horse pretending that everything is alright. this isn’t some sort of game that you’re playing to prove other people wrong. no, this is the real deal with real people and real feelings. feelings that are hurt and upset because you’re blind and stupid.
stop pretending that this isn’t real.
stop playing around and get your act together.
i’m so sick of everything being done the hard way when there’s a less stressful and easier way for things to be done. i don’t understand why people need to learn the hard way, i don’t understand why people let other people learn the hard way. its all so stupid and ignorant and unnecessary.
why do people try to ignore problems? nothing gets solved with “i don’t care” or “whatever”. if nothing gets said, nothing gets done.
one person is all it takes to make a difference. and i’m willing to sacrifice everything just to be that one person. because i care. that’s how much i care.
“so now the question is: do you care?”
sadly this is too true #neurolove #fromexperience
oh my guli…
i’m tired of things being left unsaid.
i’m tired of things that are “kept quiet”
why do we do this to ourselves? we complain so much about not being happy but we never do anything about it. and why? is it because we’re scared of what happens after everything is said and done? here’s the thing, if nothing is ever said then nothing ever gets done.
i don’t know why i let myself think otherwise.
i’ve had a long running habit of just keeping quiet and letting things happen. which isn’t bad. in fact, i think that most things should happen that way. but when it comes to stuff that matters. things that could potentially change the tides. something should be said. and its scary. i know that much is true. but we gotta suck it up. because if we don’t, then where you’re going is exactly where you’re headed. be it some place you want or not.
we’ve been given choices before in our lives. the choice to either keep going straight or to make a turn. no choice is right or wrong. but each choice brings us somewhere different. if you don’t like where your life is going then you need to change direction. and there’s no GPS of life. no map of our futures. because the destination is always changing.
i may not like it…but that doesn’t mean i don’t have to go through this.
i’m tired of being the one who never says anything contrary.
here’s a question to ask yourself:
if something bothers you, would you say something about it?
i usually say okay and i deal with it by myself. i think that i save a lot of people a lot of trouble by not saying anything. even if something is wrong…but something i think of now, is that a lot of things i leave unsaid, are the things that need to be heard.
not everything can be ignored and take care of itself. and not everything has to be done the hard way. a lot of feelings could be spared if things weren’t always done the hard way. we can’t always wait for someone else to say something, because that someone else may not be the one who needs to say something. maybe its YOU that needs to say something.
or else nothing will ever change.
….is this considered a psych illness? because this is me everyday.